10 steps to positivity

10 steps to positivity

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Are your energy levels feeling a little depleted? Could it be that the atmosphere in your home is dragging you down? We turned to self-help expert Anne Jones and asked for her top 10 tried and tested ways to stay uplifted and energised as you face the challenges of life.


1. Seal your energy field

Visualise a large egg in front of you, open its door and step in, close the door behind you. Imagine the walls are transparent but very thick and your family’s negative thoughts and emotional charge will bounce off the rubber-like external walls.

2. Clear needy hooks

Those who are needy or lacking confidence naturally look for ways to gain more vitality so they hook onto you and effectively suck your energy. To clear the hooks, sweep your hands over your body and intentionally clear away them away. Cut the cords from your end by chopping imaginary links.

3. Manage controllers and bullies

If a family member, whether a child, parent or partner, throws tantrums, sulks, bullies, or deliberately puts you down, you need to take action. When they use words that are intended to harm your confidence, say to yourself ‘duck!’ and visualise their thoughts, words and energy stream flowing over your head.

4. Check your level of responsibility

Carrying other people’s burdens is a quick route to exhaustion. If you’re picking up or trying to fix your family’s personal problems, they will soon become burdens that drag you down, often leading to physical aches and pains in the shoulders and upper back for example. Sweep your shoulders every day and take a step back to see if you’re taking on responsibilities that are not yours to carry.

5. Avoid angry outbursts

Visualise a garage door that you slam down when you come under any form of strong negative attack. Emotional outbursts are draining so don’t get involved in angry arguments – instead pull down the barrier and step back.

6. Stay strong

Use quality essential oils in your bath, on your pillow or as a fragrance. Sandalwood and sage are believed to have protective qualities and lavender will help to keep you calm. Wear crystals such as obsidian or tourmaline to create a defensive shield. Fresh air, good food, regular exercise and uplifting company will help you to restock your energy reserves.

7. Clear the atmosphere

Spray all the rooms in your home with a mix of water and essential oils such as peppermint, lemon and sage. If the energy is very heavy following an argument for example, clear it by burning frankincense or sage. Waft the smoke into all corners. Drawing back the curtains and opening the windows to allow fresh air and light into every room, displaying fresh flowers and playing uplifting music will also help.

8. De-clutter

Piles of clutter create stagnant energy, lowering the good vibrations so get into the habit of regularly getting rid of broken or unused household items.

9. Clear your own energy field

Bathe in the evening using a citrus shower gel or Epsom bath salts to neutralise negativity and release any vibes that have attached to you during the day. Finish by spraying yourself with peppermint or lemongrass essential oils.

10. Radiate positive vibes

Each time you enter your home, spend a few moments radiating out positive vibes. Greet every member of your family, even the teenagers, with a smile and hit them with your bright and positive vibes. Remember, smiles are infectious.



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